So here is my message to these idiots who had a laugh at our expense:
I struggle to comprehend how you can think this is funny. I'm trying to find anything funny that relates to my little girl, Bianca's cancer treatment the past 2 years and... no, nothing. I can't find anything funny about hearing the devastating diagnosis and standing in the corridor trying my hardest not to cry as tears streamed down my face. It wasn't funny when I woke up that Tuesday morning thinking "oh what a horrible nightmare", just to realise that this was real, it was very very real.
We look at her beads, and none of that is funny, although it certainly is a testament to her bravery, it reminds us of the countless bloodtests, all the other tests, procedures, days of chemo and so many other things. But it is also a reminder that she should never have had cancer in the first place.
Could you (The Chasers) honestly look into my little girl's eyes, laugh at her and say "lower your expectations" and "why go to all the trouble?"
Right now I can supply you an incredibly long list of parents who walk this journey that we walk, some who unfortunately and sadly have lost their kids to this horrible disease, some who walked this journey, but had to face the reality of a relapse and are now again walking this journey, but this time so much harder and so much more intense.
But you know what (The Chasers)? My little girl is a much bigger person than you will ever be, despite having to deal with the harsh realities, the fears, the pain, the isolation, the side-effects, despite having to cope with so much more than you will ever have to cope with in your lifetime. She is the most amazing, inspiring little girl I know. She doesn't ever complain, she'll cry when something is sore or scary, but she will recover from that and move on and she always finds a way to make the best of life, to laugh and to smile.
I don't wish this journey on anybody, not even my worst enemy. Whilst we have found a way to make this manageable, it most definitely is not easy. It is devastating, it is hard, it is challenging, you cannot even begin to imagine. But I hope that if you ever have to fight cancer or have a child with cancer (which I sincerely hope don't ever happen to you or a child of yours), I hope that you will be reminded of your question "why go to all the trouble?" and see how you would feel if you were in our shoes... I bet it won't be so funny then anymore.