I am really sorry that you feel offended about part of my entry, where I described my relief at coming home to find we accidentally left our sliding door wide open and to realise that we didn't have to worry.
I would like to assure you that in no way was my comment politically motivated, nowhere in that paragraph is there anything that is based on politics, I did not mention reasons as to why people might become involved in crime or the history of South Africa, I did not make mention of any of the political parties or the way the country is run or anything else other than making an observation that I am happy to be here and not still in South Africa because in all honesty I don't think we would have been able to accidentally leave a sliding door wide open without having things stolen. Certainly not from my personal experience.
I think it is common knowledge that South Africa does have issues with crime - one only has to look on News24 (which is a public website) and even here in New Zealand on our one travel website people are warned that there is a problem with crime in South Africa. I honestly did not think that it was a secret because most people I come across seem to be familiar with the situation.
I'm sorry that you felt I was running South Africa down, I did not say anything bad about South Africa as a place, I did not discourage anybody from visiting South Africa, except made an observation that I was pleased to be here and not there and that it was a relief when I realised we had left the sliding door wide open. Certainly I think there might very well be other countries in the world where people would not leave their doors open like that.
We have never hidden our reasons for moving to New Zealand and certainly whilst I don't make it a usual topic of conversation in this particular blog, I have always been honest about it whenever people asked or if I felt I needed to mention it. I appreciate that there are many people who do not share the same feelings as us, but certainly there are many people who feel the way we do, at the end of the day we all have to do what is best for us and for our children.
In a previous entry I even made mention of the fact that moving to New Zealand was in fact a blessing in disguise because we didn't know then that Bianca was going to get sick and so it is a blessing that she is able to receive her medical treatment here where we are not faced with the same huge expenses as other people are dealing with (if that was the case we would not have been able to afford Bianca's treatment and she would have died, simple as that!), in addition to this Bianca is receiving excellent education at a public school where she does not have more than around 21 kids in her class and her fees for the year came to $135 for the year (around R760 for the year if you convert it). From what I've seen it would have been much more expensive in South Africa and she would have likely had close to 35 or even 40 children in her class depending on which school she may have gone to.
You say that I chose not to handle your situation - I wasn't trying to handle any situations. I was merely making a comparison between my own personal past experience and my current experience. My comment was an observation and nothing more and it was based on my own feelings.
Wow, that is great that for the past 20 years you have left your backdoor unlocked. I am very happy for you and I think it is important that you feel safe where you live. You must count your blessings because everybody I know, and have spoken to to date, would tell me that they have not been as lucky as you where they could just leave their backdoor unlocked, certainly not without their security gates or if they lived outside a security complex (but maybe things have changed and it is becoming more common in South Africa for people to leave their doors unlocked). Certainly when we were still living there we most definitely could not have done this. One particular personal experience was that we had a burglary when we were all sleeping and had all our doors and windows closed and locked except one tiny little window which was open for the cat and that was how they gained access, and yes thankfully we did not wake up during that time. That was before getting married and having kids. My mom would probably remember this day quite clearly.
Please know I am very happy for you, that you are able to have that freedom, that is something we did not feel we had then, but certainly we have that now and we live our lives without burglar bars and security gates, high fences with electric fencing and we certainly count our blessings each and every day when we go for walks or go to the park or beach!
Why am I not allowed to draw comparisons between our past experience and our current experience? This is after all our blog, which is really no different to an online diary or journal and whilst most of it definitely is about Bianca and her treatment, surely I have the right to discuss other things too? Surely I should be able to inform our family and friends about things here that are important to us, after all that was really why this blog was created in the beginning - to keep our family and friends up to date. Yes, we chose to share it with others, but at the end of the day it is still based on our own personal experience be it past or present. It is still nothing more than a personal online diary. A place where I would want Bianca to come and read one day, to know why we made the decisions we made and to share with her the things she endured as a little girl. I'm not going to deny our past experiences and I'm not going to deny the factors that brought us to this point and surely we should be allowed to count our blessings.
I'm sorry if you don't agree, all I did was to make an innocent observation and in no way was it intended to offend anybody, however this is our blog and we reserve the right to write down our thoughts and ideas and opinions whether people agree with it or not.
I would like to wish you all the very best, and really I'm very happy for you that you are able to leave your door unlocked like that! Since moving to New Zealand that is what we found, that it isn't the end of the world when you forget to lock or even close your door, that's a great feeling isn't it?